YOU! HEY HI HELLO! YOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOO.
:) Peace be upon you.
I’m about to drop some words—real words. Words I need to hear (read) once in a while to smack some sense back into myself and move along with my life before the dull routine of nothingness swallows me whole.
So, you’re in a slump, are you? Maybe? You’re not sure? Is everyone else doing a whole lot more with life than you are? Yeah…I’ve felt that way before too. Do me a favor. Breathe for a second. Yep, take a deep breath. Ahh. Feel that? That’s life. You can breathe, thank God. Go ahead, do it. Thank God. Alhamdulillah.
Now do me another favor. Stop comparing yourself to other people, whether they be your classmates, friends, coworkers, siblings—STOP. Just because something worked for them doesn’t mean it’ll work for you. Maybe you’re trying to squish a puzzle piece into a space where it doesn’t belong, and nobody likes squished puzzle pieces. There’s another one out there that fits in the space better. Don’t force it.
“Do not be satisfied with the stories that come before you. Unfold your own myth.” — Rumi
You’ve been so darn distracted with the fact that other people are doing things that you forgot you’re capable of doing things too. There’s a high chance you’re already doing something cool. Remind yourself of that. You’re a cool dude.
Once you stop comparing yourself to other people, focus on what really needs to be improved. There’s something you’ve been meaning to better about yourself, for no one else but the betterment of your own being. So, chop chop! Get on that! Stop moping around. Stop being lazy. You failed at it a million times before, I get it. But realize this: “You never know when the door’s gonna open.” Keep knocking on that door, try over and over again, and eventually (if God wills) it’ll crack. Ask Allah for help. Because He’s the One who makes things happen.
إِنَّمَا أَمْرُهُ إِذَا أَرَادَ شَيْئًا أَن يَقُولَ لَهُ كُن فَيَكُونُ
“His command is only when He intends a thing that He says to it, ‘Be,’ and it is.” — Qur’an 36:82
Talk to Allah. Forget venting to your friends or complaining about this and that. Whatever is worrying you, whatever is on your mind, something that’s been eating away at you from the inside for however long—go talk to Allah about it. He’s always there.
وَإِذَا سَأَلَكَ عِبَادِي عَنِّي فَإِنِّي قَرِيبٌ ۖ أُجِيبُ دَعْوَةَ الدَّاعِ إِذَا دَعَانِ ۖ فَلْيَسْتَجِيبُوا لِي وَلْيُؤْمِنُوا بِي لَعَلَّهُمْ يَرْشُدُونَ
“And when My servants ask you, [O Muhammad], concerning Me—indeed I am near. I respond to the invocation of the supplicant when he calls upon Me. So let them respond to Me [by obedience] and believe in Me that they may be guided.” — Qur’an 2:186
Then be patient and set some realistic goals. Aim high, sure. But actually WORK toward achieving your goals. It’s okay to be afraid. It’s okay to feel unsure of yourself, and it’s totally normal for your confidence to slip into nonexistence. Just don’t let it stay nonexistent forever. Learn to revive it. Remind yourself why you’re a cool dude. Remind yourself of the qualities and skills you possess, because you possess some hella fine skills and qualities that make you unique.
Yeah, you are unique. That’s why not everything that works out for your buddy works out for you. You’ve got your own lifestyle and choices and circumstances. So again, don’t mope around wondering why you haven’t figured out every detail of your life and future when that friend or sibling or random stranger seems to have already done so.
Last, remember some things are in your control, and some things are not in your control. What you have control over, take care of it. Keep a positive attitude, treat others with respect, that kind of thing. What you don’t have control over, I mean, that’s life. Know Allah has a plan for you, and you need to navigate this world the best you can. Put your trust in Him when everything’s going wrong and when everything’s going right.
وَتَوَكَّلْ عَلَى اللَّهِ ۚ وَكَفَىٰ بِاللَّهِ وَكِيلًا
“And put thy trust in Allah, for Allah is sufficient as Trustee.” — Qur’an 33:3
You know all this. I know all this, too. But I wanted to drop these real words because I needed to write/read them to smack some sense back into myself. We can’t let the dull routine of nothingness swallow us whole. We’re meant for more.